First off, I want to send lots of hugs and kisses to all of my readers who left such sweet comments about my post regarding how Justin and I came to be. One of the main points that I really took out of your comments.. as Vivianne put it – is that there is no such thing as an ordinary love story.
How true is that?! All love is extraordinary.. especially when you find someone that compliments you so well – like two peas in a pod. So – with that being said – thank you for enjoying my EXTRAORDINARY love story 🙂
So – this was a nice little Tuesday for me.. since it feels like a Monday – but there are only 3 more days left of my work week.. rather then 4! 🙂
Despite the gross weather (that has no end in sight 😦 )
I was excited to show off my new do’ to my students and coworkers.
Everyone said they loved it.. but I don’t think people would actually say if they didn’t like someone’s new style. I am defintely liking it more now though – then I did right after the initial shock!
A run-down of today’s eats (well some of them. I never picture everything I eat!)
And as for my exercise…
I’ve got NOTHING for ya. That is right. COMPLETE rest day. No yoga. No leisurly stroll. Rest. Long overdue rest. It felt nice to just relax and do nothing. I am sure I am going to feel energize and rejuvinated when I hit up the gym tomorrow after work!
I am sure by now you are confused at the title of my post since.. well, thus far, there has been no actual connection.
As a newbie in the school systems, I am shocked by the alarming rate of bullies within the schools – and just how young the cattiness and downright mean and disrespectful actions begin.
When I look back at my education, I do not remember bullying being too much of an issue until I got to middle school.
But I deal with bullying in my classroom every single day. It is exhausting. It is frustrating.. and it is also heartbreaking. While I am doing everything in my power to control bullying and to keep my kids safe, I can only imagine what future years of school will be like for many of these students.
Children – even 7 and 8 year olds…. are SMART…. perhaps genius – when it comes to bullying. The second an adult is out of ear shot – or turns their back to help another child – there may be an elbow jab – a kick – a rude remark. There is just so much annimosity between some children… and it can be quite difficult to get to the bottom of it.
Sometimes, I feel like the issue of bullying spirals out of control in my classroom (especially if I am not there… i.e., yesterday). WIth the help of some collegeues, I believe that the root of a lot of the trouble in children – is a lack of self-esteem and self confidence.
Lashing out at other students serves as a defense mechanism. If the student with low self-esteem is always dishing out the nasty comments – there is no time for someone to launch an attack on them.. or perhaps a student is too intimidated to make a remark at this bully’s expense.
Bullying is a problem in all schools. Not just in inner-city schools – or in districts with a certain demographic. It is everywhere. And it is getting bad. With so many more outlets to bully.. like facebook, twitter, through texting, etc.. There are so many young children and teenagers who feel like they have their backs against the wall due in large part to what others are saying about them – or doing to them.
We’ve had workshops on bullying – and our school even had a guest author – who wrote a book about how he was bullied as a child -to try and get the harshness under control. It has not seemed to work yet.
So, today, I have decided to take a different approach. An approach that will encourage positive behaviors – rather then concentrate on the discipline of negative behaviors.
Enter: CAUGHT YA!
Yes – we are playing a game… and this here.. is the Caught Ya jar. Whenever I catch a student being a good friend, they get to take a ticket – write their name and their good deed down on the paper – and place it in the jar.
At the end of every week – I will draw two names out of the jar – and those students will get to enjoy a lovely lunch with yours truly.
Lunch with the teacher.. is like a God send. They were soo excited about this. By reinforcing positive behaviors -and truly commending acts of friendship, I am also hoping to build self-esteem, self-image… self-concept… you know.. all of those oh-so-important things related to the self (that we all struggle with even now and again as adults).
So – let’s keep our fingers crossed for a more caring environemtn in second grade for these last couple of weeks of school!
Tell me about your experiences with bullying. Where you ever the victim of bullying – or maybe on the other side of the fence? Any tips for preventing bullying? Helping youngsters value their self worth?